Words for Monday: Patience is Key

Patience  |  The Fresh Exchange

This summer has been all about patience for us. Reaching the last few months of our time here in Traverse City, we still have not landed a home in Raleigh. On top of that we feel that we have to put a lot of our decisions as business owners and our dream work as creatives on hold as well. At times this keeps me up at night and leaves me dreaming some really funky things. I sometimes dream that I am floating and unable to grab anything or put both of my feet back on the ground.

Though this feeling of floating somewhere in between has felt stressful more often than not, we have also felt some level of freedom that we realize could end very quickly when house payments and responsibility become a reality. So, we are trying to keep our state of mind on this unique level of freedom for now. Patience is not only a virtue but it is valuable during these seasons of life.

Often we feel ready for the next thing and ready to just close the deal when we really need to let ourselves be patient enough to know that things will happen when they are supposed to happen. This rings true even when we are grasping and straining for what we want. I am trying to remind myself of this everyday as well as stay focused on work and completing tasks each day. Learning patience, just like anything in life, comes in seasons. I know I will learn a new level of patience at another point in my life, but right now I am learning the kind of patience that is about allowing life to come as it may. As someone who loves to make things happen for myself, I struggle with asking for help. I hate things being out of my control, but I am breathing deep whenever that frustration and anxiety surfaces.

Seeing others have exciting things happen for them can be hard when you are trying to be patient. For me I begin to wonder if I am doing something wrong or if I haven’t tried hard enough, when in truth I try to remember it simply isn’t my time yet. The time will come and it will come just when it should. When I think about the weight of what I am waiting for I begin to realize that I still need this time here in this weightless freedom in order to prepare for what will come. I need that freedom to say let’s disappear and enjoy what little we have to worry about right now.

I am sure each of you have something you are waiting on in different ways. It could be a house, a studio space, starting a family, finding the love of your life, getting out of a job and starting your dream job, an upcoming trip, or anything. Whatever it may be, know that this time in between is extremely valuable. It is the time you need in order to be ready to take on this next big thing you are dreaming of. Being patient now is going to make you that much stronger and prepare you to take on the challenges that will come with what is ahead. Celebrate those who achieve what you are hoping for. Enjoy here and now in this space between…things will change and this time now will never exist again so take advantage of all it has to offer. Everything you are waiting on will come when it should.

Have you had seasons of patience? What tips for being patient do you have?

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  1. Right now, in this moment, I can very much relate to this. Just last night I was saying how much I couldn’t wait for …. But now I’m looking harder to see the value in this in-between time. Great read for me on this Monday afternoon! Thank you Megan!

  2. I’m definitely in a patience season right now and I’ve done my share of fighting against it! Thank you for this post: it’s very reassuring to know I’m not alone.

  3. Thanks for a great Monday post and for putting a necessary virtue into perspective. I’ve always found being patient rather difficult, but as I’ve gotten older I have tried to look at where I am at the moment…and not wish my life away. My favorite expression has become ‘it is what it is.’ I think everything comes when it’s supposed to, not necessarily when you would like it to.


  4. Hi Megan,
    Thanks so much for this post! Over the past few months, I’ve been struggling with being patient. A couple of months ago, I had a huge argument with my oldest and closest friend and he pretty much cut me out of his life. Hurtful words were exchanged on both sides and I wish I could rewind. We thought we’d be in each others’ lives forever.
    This situation has brought me closer to God. Thanks to tons of trust and prayer, I’m beginning to see where I was wrong in the situation and I’m beginning to forgive myself. I’ve also forgiven him. God is amazing and I know that if we’re meant to be friends, then He’ll make it happen. Nothing is impossible.
    So I’m smack dab in the middle of a season of patience. The road has been pretty rocky; filled with guilt and regret. But through it all, I’m slowly but surely learning how to be patient.
    So one surefire tip for being patient: Trust in God. He knows what’s best for us. We often times think we know what we want, but we really don’t. It’s not that our plan is necessarily bad, it’s just that His plan for our lives is way better.
    Have an amazing week!

  5. The one thing I always have to remember which you wrote is things will happen when they’re supposed to happen. I want everything to happen now, but that just isn’t the case. I agree seasons of patience are there to help mold you for what is to come, and this time is different for everyone. One tip I have is to live in the moment because it’s the only thing that is guaranteed, and be grateful for the wonderful things that you already have.

  6. My hubby and I have both been struggling with worry about the future and before a long walk on the beach this Saturday, we read this story from Anthony DiMello’s Song of the Bird–
    “A Japanese warrior was captured by his enemies and thrown into prison. That night he was unable to sleep because he feared that the next day he would be interrogated, tortured, and executed. Then the words of his Zen master came to him, “Tomorrow is not real. It is an illusion. The only reality is now.” Heeding these words, the warrior became peaceful and fell asleep. ”

    Tomorrow is not real has become our mantra. Yes, we’re still planning and hoping for what we want for the future, but obsessing about it only creates a dissatisfaction and inability to enjoy the present. Your struggle made me think of the story, hope it helps you as much as it’s helped us!

  7. I so needed this! I’ve struggled to find peace with my current situation…wanting to start a family (but it not happening) and preparing for a big move. Life is funny and constantly teaching me lessons. Patience is one I need to work on!

  8. This is exactly where I am right now. To stay patient, I try to focus on and enjoy the freedom. I throw myself into learning new things I otherwise wouldn’t have the time/resources to learn, read books long stored away on my Kindle and go deeper into photography. It makes me feel that this time is productive and explorative instead of a time to waste away in limbo.

  9. Thank you so much for writing this post! Patience is a virtue that I think we’re so aware of just because we feel that we lack it so much, but, like you said, learning patience comes in seasons. I fully believe that.
    Recently, I’ve been studying about patience and peace and I’ve come to a realization that patience is more than waiting for things that we want or need to happen. Patience, for me, has become more about not giving in to instant gratification. For example, I need to be patient with myself in writing a book, and I do this by letting myself realize that this process is not one that can be finished in one day. I can have patience with myself to work towards a long-term goal.
    Thank you again for writing this post!

  10. I am very much having one of those moments. When I was looking over you blog after ALT I was feeling so homesick. I love Michigan so much and there are times when my need to be back there is so strong it’s all I can think about. But I also know that it’s not in the cards right now and I must enjoy where I am in life and space. It is nice to know that we all feel this way at times even the people we think are living our dreams.

  11. I know I’m echoing what’s been said below, but I definitely needed this. I’m incredibly impatient some days and I have so many ideas and dreams that simply take time. This was a breath of fresh air.

  12. Thank you for this insight, Megan. You have a knack for understanding what other people are going through as you’re going through them. I love that you recognize the connection, makes me realize I’m not alone with anxiety over things I surely need to transition into patience.

    “The time will come & it will come just when it should.” A breath of fresh air, thank you for this reminder. Truly needed this as we go about a big decision with owning our first home. Commitment, change & worry of the two all rolled into one week has my heart pumpin’, a bit dizzying! I’ve been trying to sit still & meditate to truly hear what my inner voice is telling me, to gain strength as we go about the detailed process of making a dream become reality.

    Breathe, breathe, breathe. I discover the beauty of the in-between here. The patience comes like magic.

  13. I love this post! I’ve been praying to meet and marry my best friend for years, and I can definitely relate to wondering if I’m doing something wrong or not trying hard enough. It’s so true that sometimes we need to just let go and be open to life as it unfolds. Thanks for sharing these honest words. I love your blog! It’s always an inspiration and an encouragement to me. 🙂

  14. This is beautiful, and I needed to be reminded that yes, sometimes we do need to just let go, no matter how difficult it may. I have learnt that letting go allows the new chapter of ones life to begin!

    Thanks so much for sharing this!

  15. I was meant to hear these words in this very moment of my life! Becoming a true believer in the law of attraction- I was attracted to these simple words, thus I received the message I needed to soothe my soul-