And It’s a….

And it's a... BOY! | The Fresh Exchange

When I was younger, I remember a watching my mom taking care of my brother and realizing one day I would become a mom as well. The concept frightened me, but even as a young kid I felt like one day I would also have a boy.

In our first year of marriage, I vividly remember a dream where I was going to the job site of a home that we were building. In the dream, Mike was walking ahead of me, and it was a chilly day, I know this of course because we were wearing coats. I walked slower than him because I held the hand of a little boy about 3 or so with dark hair and tons of wonder in his eyes. As we were walking in the doorway, I leaned down to him and told him “this is going to be our new home.” I don’t remember much of the details of the home itself. I didn’t recognize the place we were at or anything more. The only thing that felt right was the three of us together in that home. Every time I think about that dream I get a little teared up. The dream still feels real and a little like the feeling you get when you arrive home after a long time away. It is the feeling of being right where you are meant to be.

On the day we found out we would be welcoming a little boy into this world, I instantly remembered that dream. I went right back to the feeling of his hand in mine and the fluffy dark hair that Mike and I both had as kids. I don’t put a lot of stock in the truth of dreams, but I have heard of women dreaming of their children many years before they ever are pregnant or think of making that step in their life. No matter your feelings on the premonitions of dreams, I love the dream more now than in the moment when I awoke from it. To this day, that dream still feels real, even four years later.

Truthfully, we would have been happy with a boy or girl, we didn’t care either way. Just like most expecting parents, we only want a healthy baby. We tossed around the idea of not finding out but decided it would give us a connection to the baby before his arrival.

We had a pretty special experience finding out the sex. While we were up north, we had to have a check up. We knew we would ask a close family friend who is ending his time as an OBGYN to do the honors of checking in on our little one in August. The special part? He was the doctor who delivered me, my brother, and two of my cousins! He and his wife were at our wedding and have been friends with my grandparents for over 40 years. That said, Mike and I consider him and his wife as close as family. So, when we showed up that day, Mike and I brought my parents and brother along for the checkup. It was 14 weeks and very early, but we snuck a peak, and the doctor was 80% sure we had a little boy. It was special for my parents (this will be their first grandchild) and my brother to see this moment and share in the joy. Afterward, we all went out and celebrated. It felt so incredible to share that monumental moment with some of the people we love the most. We didn’t want to share the news until we had the official 19-week confirmation ultrasound back home.

Since finding out we would be having a boy, I have been just giddy thinking of having a little guy to read stories to at night, hike through the woods with, look for frogs with, and to discover the world with through his eyes. One day we might have a little girl and we have the joy of experiencing both sides of the coin, but for now I am living in the world of boyhood and feel overjoyed about all that is ahead.

Many times while Mike and I are doing the dishes or driving somewhere we chat about all the hilarious things he could do with his life and speculate about who he will be. It may be our favorite conversation lately. Sure we are two creative independent people, but we know that doesn’t mean he necessarily will be the same. I mean my brother is a plastics engineer, so there is a chance he might get some of that math brain. Either way he will be all his own, and we love that we will have the opportunity to see the world through his eyes. We have no doubt he will be a part of making us better each day.

What I do know about him thus far at nearly 21 weeks (he is measuring one week ahead of me) is that he is a strong one. His kicks are far more than most kids at this stage. At 18 weeks, I could visibly see my stomach move up and down when he kicked, and he hasn’t slowed down. Just knowing he is a he, makes Mike and I feel how very real all of this is. Seeing him moving and kicking is even more exciting these days. At the last ultrasound we could see all of his toes, fingers, long skinny legs, and even his little nose. It really made us realize how precious this little life is and how much he will play into the rest of our lives. Now, choosing a name… We had one picked out, but have spent weeks kicking others names just to be sure. Ultimately, we keep coming back to the original, which is usually the right sign. The only way it would change now is if he arrives the name just doesn’t feel like him for whatever reason.

This journey surprises me every day. From the growing aches and pains of everything expanding and loosening in my body to him rolling over and kicking to the way it brings Mike and I closer, it is all such a precious and beautiful thing to us.

We are excited to share this tidbit of our excitement with all of you. We are still learning how to integrate this new part of our story and life here. Thank you for your patience, understanding, and support.

Now if all of this baby stuff isn’t your thing, the rest of the week will be filled with some exciting new things ahead as well as sharing about a big trip we are taking next week.

Now, all of you moms give me your boy advice and suggestions for what to make sure to have on our registry and even what was a waste of time!

 

In the image: A big thanks to Jenn Elliott Blake (also welcoming a little one in November!) for sending along the swaddler and lion. The quilted body suit is from Baby Gap, and the leather football is from Huckberry

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  1. Congratulations! We are expecting a girl end of november and this pregnancy has been going awesome. I wish you all the best and, above all, lots and lots of happiness 🙂

  2. How sweet! Great news! I have a little girl, and a few nights before the ultrasound (and knowing the sex) I had a dream about her. I saw clearly she was a little girl, so I wasn’t surprised when I found out.
    The crazy thing is that she is exactly how I dreamt her!
    And I felt her kicking like crazy too! Nobody believed me until they saw my belly go up and down! Be careful, because even now, at 1 year, she never sits still! 🙂
    About the registry: REALLY REALLY THINK TWICE ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE BUYING/asking, OR YOU’LL END UP WITH A LOT OF USELESS STUFF. I KEPT IT TO THE BARE MINIMUM AND SUPER HAPPY I DID. A good read is: https://medium.com/@jessicahische/bare-minimum-baby-160cdf8fc00a .

  3. YAY!!!! Boys are sooooo loving with their mommas. As a momma to both girl and boy, I will say the bond between my son and I is much stronger. That doesn’t mean I love either child more than the other, it’s just a different bond and kind of love 🙂 I have two things that are a must on every baby register: Fisher Price Rock n Play sleeper and Fisher Price Space Saver High Chair. Both are worth their weight in gold. I also suggest skipping the carseat & stroller sets…unless the stroller is a jogging stroller. Do not bother with small wheels on a stroller. They are too difficult to maneuver. We used the stroller a ton with the June birthday baby…and not at all with the October birthday baby. Have fun buying all the cute boy things <3

  4. This post has left a huge smile on my face, your dream was just so beautiful and to find out you’re having a boy was the cherry on the cake! I am so excited to one day hopefully have a child of my own and reading this makes me so broody, I can’t wait to have chats like that with my own and share all the excitement with family! your little one sounds like he is going to be a right adventurer, ESPECIALLY considering he’s kicking away already, I’m so excited for you both
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  5. Being a mom of boys is so much fun…trust me there will never be a dull moment! Must haves on your registry…triple paste diaper rash cream (seriously the best) and a comfortable baby carrier to wear your baby. Congratulations!

  6. Congratulations! I grew up with a brother and all boy cousins, and my husband has a brother, so I feel pretty sure that we’ll have at least one boy in our family someday. We’ll be happy with any children, though, and have some names picked out already. (We had to call dibs on names with my brother-in-law and his wife!)

  7. Congrats!!! We are so happy for you. You will love the beautiful challenges that come with having a tiny little man. we say skip the pee pee tee pees, they are going to pee on you no matter what. Our best choice on things for the little one is cloth diapers. You are boTh going to be amazing parents!!

  8. Congrats! Boy’s are awesome! If I had to recommend one thing (regardless of gender, really)it would be a good carrier. They’re so great for getting things done and still keeping your babe happy as a clam. THE RING SLING AND MEITAI WERE MY CHOICE. easy to put on and off. 🙂

  9. HOORAY for little boys! I am so so excited for you. I know When we found out we were having a little girl, somehow it just seemed like that’s exactly how it was supposed to be. It’s an amazing feeling isn’t it? Sending huge congratulations, love and hugs to all three of you! xo

  10. congratulations! I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of years now. I’m excited to see your parent related posts in the future!

    I have a two-year-old boy and i’m currently expecting our second child; although we don’t know the sex yet. I’m hoping for another boy! boys are just the best. be ready to be super energetic with him.

    the items i’ve used the most: stroller (we live in san diego, we always have good weather so we’re constantly outside); the high chair (i have the mamas & papas space-saver one; we love it); my favorite cups – the pura kiki stainless steel. they transition from bottle to sippy cup to snack holder. brilliant.

    Honestly, any swing thing or moving apparatus is UNNECESSARY. placing them on the floor to roll/crawl is better for their development. OBVIOUSLY put some BLANKETS and pillows and clear the area of hazardous things haha.

    congrats again!